Episode 79 — Alexandria: Moving Criticism and Grudging Compliment (Summer 2022)

SLII: Life Invasion, Intimidation

Excerpt (bullets)

• Prior to moving from house, person I formerly had a long-term relationship with said concerned would find place—said couldn't do it, not able.
• Put down left and right, didn't know what doing.
• Even when helping move, continuously questioned capability.
• Classic gaslighting of mental and emotional abuse.
• When saw apartment, grudgingly complimented but not before contributing to problems experienced with movers.
• Passive-aggressive behavior in full view.

Full Narrative

In summer 2022, prior to moving from the house the person I formerly had a long-term relationship with said he was concerned I would find a place. Said I couldn't do it; not able to. He put me down left and right. I didn't know what I was doing. Even when helping me move he continuously questioned my capability. Classic gaslighting of mental and emotional abuse. When he saw my apartment he grudgingly complimented me but not before contributing to the problems I experienced with the movers. His passive-aggressive behavior was in full view. The pattern—undermine, then feign support—was designed to erode confidence and maintain control.

Category Codes

• HRM.DV (Gaslighting and emotional abuse)