Episode 85 — Alexandria: Person I Formerly Had a Long-Term Relationship With Pretended Not Know Me Antagonistic Behaviors (Various Times)

SLII: Life Invasion, Intimidation, Interference

Excerpt (bullets)

• Purposely said things that would elevate otherwise sane and comfortable situation.
• I was angry when disappointed; didn't contribute to household when did.
• Didn't earn enough even though earned more than him.
• Speech and writing sub-par even though had master's degree, achieved other accolades.
• Had temper tantrum when didn't.
• Gifted with items knew didn't like.
• Placed rug-eating moths in house to attack mine while saying brought in with plants (impossible).
• Placing blue rope of shrub-eating bugs in shrubs, then refusing to help extricate them.
• These are patterns of mental and emotional abuse.

Full Narrative

At various times, he purposely said things that would elevate an otherwise sane and comfortable situation. I was angry when I was disappointed. I did not contribute to the household when I did. I did not earn enough even though I earned more than him. My speech and writing were sub-par even though I had a master's degree and had achieved other accolades. I had a temper tantrum when I did not. He gifted me with items he knew I did not like. He placed rug-eating moths in the house to attack mine while saying he brought them in with his plants (impossible). He placed a blue rope of shrub-eating bugs in one of the shrubs and then refused to help me extricate them. These are patterns of mental and emotional abuse. Each action was designed to undermine, frustrate, and control.

Category Codes

• HRM.DV (Systematic emotional and mental abuse)
• SUR.FAM (In-home sabotage)