Episode 76 — Alexandria: Abuse From Person I Formerly Had a Long-Term Relationship With During House Sale (Summer 2022)

SLII: Life Invasion, Intimidation, Interference

Excerpt (bullets)

• Week scheduled to move out, both contracted COVID from movers.
• As long as could remember, person I formerly had a long-term relationship with had been gaslighting, telling no good, belittling—signs of mental and emotional abuse.
• Stated not doing enough to complete move-out.
• Told him sick with COVID—to him no excuse, good for nothing.
• Neighbor let house sit starting few days earlier.
• Decided not to move stuff because of illness and completing move-out.
• Could no longer accept abuse, moved all items to next-door neighbor's house.
• All of sudden became nice and amicable when saw could stay elsewhere.
• Stark contrast to previous behavior.
• Even went so far as to ask if could stay couple nights at that house.
• Seeking to be amicable, agreed, even letting borrow clothes.

Full Narrative

In summer 2022, the week we were scheduled to move out we both contracted COVID from the movers. For as long as I could remember the person I formerly had a long-term relationship with had been gaslighting me, telling me I was no good, and belittling me as a few signs of mental and emotional abuse. He stated I was not doing enough to complete the move-out. I told him I was sick with COVID. To him that was no excuse. I was good for nothing. Our neighbor let me house sit for her starting a few days earlier. I had decided not to move my stuff to that house because of illness and completing the move-out. However, I could no longer accept receiving the abuse and moved all my items to the next door neighbor's house. All of a sudden he became nice and amicable when he saw that I could stay elsewhere. It was a stark contrast to his previous behavior. He even went so far as to ask me if he could stay a couple of nights at that house. Seeking to be amicable I agreed even letting him borrow my clothes. The abrupt shift from abuse to charm once I had an exit option was classic manipulation.

Category Codes

• HRM.DV (Domestic violence—gaslighting and emotional abuse)
• SUR.FAM (Control through intimidation)